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7 Reasons Why I Chose to Be a Stay-at-Home Mom

I’m a stay-at-home mom. And I love it.

I sometimes have difficultly trying to make some people understand my reasons why I chose to become a stay-at-home mom. Maybe it’s because they think I’m “wasting” my expensive education and my potential as a career person. Or maybe it’s because they think that women should not be boxed in the home. Well, I don’t think so.

In an article published by CNN, a report by Working Mother Media revealed that 60% of millenials (those who were born between 1981 to 2000, me included) believe that one parent should stay at home to care for the children. That score is the highest compared to 55% for baby boomers (1946 to 1964) and 50% for Gen Xers (those born between 1965 to 1980). The article also noted that many millenial moms don’t seem to feel the pressures of feminism driving their decision to stay at home. And I agree.

Choosing to stay at home is a very personal decision for me and my husband. It is a decision that we think is best for our family. So, if you may ask me why I chose to be a stay-at-home mom, here are my top reasons why.

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1. Because, I don’t want to brave through Manila traffic every single day.

This may seem very superficial but, yes, practically speaking I don’t have to endure Manila’s horrendous traffic. I still do go out for client meetings once in a while since I also do freelance work but I can’t seem to imagine myself losing precious time in traffic every single weekday. Those precious hours can definitely be diverted to something much more worthwhile like spending time with the family, learning something new or even pursuing passion projects. That’s why being a stay-at-home mom works for me.

2. Because time flies fast and I want to spend as much time with my family.

Last year, I wrote about my reflections as a new mom when Owen turned two. You can read it here. I wrote about my learnings and what I loved about being a new mom. And I can’t believe how fast time flies. I mean, I can vividly remember going to the clinic for my maternity checkups and fast forward to today, I now have a 3-year old son! Days with a baby or a toddler can seem very slow and long. But looking back, it seemed like the years just breezed by And I don’t want to miss a moment.

3. Because I can pursue what I really love to do outside of an office cubicle.

A professional career doesn’t always have to be confined within the walls of an office. Being a stay-at-home mom has ignited in me a passion to pursue what I really want to do – and that is building a blog that can help, teach and inspire other people. My past work in the television industry for almost 9 years has gained me a lot of experience and insights which I’m leveraging on as I work on this blog. I’m still learning and I still have a long way to go but I’m loving this journey.

4. Because I can make our house look pretty and cozy.

I remember a few years back when I was still working, Brian and I would always get home very late from work. With just a few hours before bedtime, we were just left with enough time to have a quick dinner, rest and wash up. That was it! We never really had time to soak in and enjoy our little apartment. Weekends were always busy and most of the time, we weren’t even at home. With almost no time to keep our apartment clean and looking pretty, it made the space less inviting.

I guess this is why I’m enjoying my time now that I am a stay-at-home mom. With the extra time that I gained because I don’t have to sit in traffic (see reason #1), I can work on home projects – from making DIY home decors, to cleaning and organizing. Although our house is not as clean as I want it to be right now, I still enjoy being able to make our house feel homey for the family.

5. Because I still get to help my husband with our finances even if I’m a stay-at-home mom.

Staying at home has helped me become more innovative when it comes to helping my husband with our finances. Aside from getting freelance work as a creative writer, I also have a regular work-from-home job. Getting a job nowadays has become much more accessible through remote-work platforms like Upwork. If you are a stay-at-home mom and looking for ways to monetize your time, especially when your child or children take naps, just go online! I’m sure there are a lot of employers out there looking for skills that you can offer – from transcribing, being a virtual assistant, designing, data entry, blog writing, and so much more!

6. Because we are considering to homeschool our son.

My husband and I are considering to homeschool our son, Owen. With this setup, I would need to stay at home. Right now, we are still on our research and getting ready stage for homeschool and we are learning a lot about its benefits.

 

“Every day, every hour, the parents are either passively or actively forming those habits in their children upon which, more than upon anything else, future character and conduct depend.” – Charlotte Mason

 

I know it’s going to be challenging but we believe that homeschooling will allow me and Brian to be hands-on with Owen’s education. And even if Owen goes to a regular school, I would love to be still hands-on in this journey. We want our son to grow up with a love for learning.

Busy. Messy. #owengabriel

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7. Because everyday is a new adventure.

No two days are alike when you are a stay-at-home mom. What I enjoy the most about being able to stay at home are the adventures that I face everyday with my family. From the most mundane to the out-of-this-world crazy, time spent with my family will always be treasured in my heart.

#notetoself #remaininHim

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I’m not saying that it’s always going to be rainbows and cupcakes when you become a stay-at-home mom. There are also blah days. Of course, there will be challenges along the way but God’s grace abounds. And His love and wisdom will always sustain us.

For me, being a mom is a gift, an opportunity and also a responsibility. I want to make the most of this gift. And for me, in this season of my life, the way to go is to stay at home.

Ultimately, every mom is unique. And every mom have their own innovative and loving ways to care for their family. Whether you choose to stay at home or work, what matters most is the love that we give to our families.

Are you a mom? What do you love about it?

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5 thoughts on “7 Reasons Why I Chose to Be a Stay-at-Home Mom

  1. It makes me sad that you even have to justify your reasons for wanting to stay at home . It makes me mad when people attack SAHM yet funnily enough it is one of the most demanding if not the most demanding job you could do. I totally respect that you would want to spend more time with your children I just wish people understood it more too.

  2. I don’t have kids but I would love to be a stay at home mom when I do become one. I totally agree kids grow up so fast I would want to spend as much time with them as possible.

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